Why did Ying-ying decide to get marrid to Clifford St. Clair just after she found out her husband had been killed in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club?

It seems
at first, in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club, that Ying-Ying decides to
marry Clifford St. Clair because she learns that her first husband has been killed. This
appears to be a rational answer, but the reader must also recall
that she knew she would marry Clifford before
he did (with her power to know the future), just as
she knew she would marry her first
husband.

Ying-Ying is a woman that comes from wealth and
power, but in marrying the first man who was chosen for her by her family, it might be
said that she lost her power—even her identity. While that time
seems particularly significant to her as a young woman, her losses
may have taken place when she fell into the water (off a boat) when she was four, and
almost drowned.

Separated from her family, Ying-Ying
witnesses a play about the Moon Lady, and is told (as is the entire audience) that for a
fee, she can have one wish...but no one hears her plea. We can
assume that Ying-Ying is physically found, but somehow, something deep inside her has
been lost: perhaps because of her sense that she is of no
consequence—that no one is there to save her when she falls, and that no one seems to
miss her during that first story. Is it any wonder, then, that she might feel she
matters very little to her first and second husbands—even though Clifford is a good
man?

When Ying-Ying realizes her first husband has left
her, she goes to live with her extended family, under extremely undesireable
circumstances. Ultimately, she tires of doing nothing, and with some money she has, she
buys nice clothes, gets a chic haircut, and takes a job. When she first meets Clifford,
she can tell what kind of man he is. He, however, has little knowledge of who
she really is. In fact, as Ying-Ying tells it, he only learns her
secrets when he becomes a ghost, ostensibly because all ghosts may know in death what
they could not know in life.

Clifford wants to marry
Ying-Ying, and he cares about her. He waits four years—until she is ready: and she is
ready when she learns of her first husband's death. However, she is never really
connected with Clifford: she goes along with him to America and
quietly makes a new life as his wife. In truth, perhaps she marries Clifford because of
the wish she had made to the Moon Lady that night when she was a lost child—"I wished to
be found." Maybe Ying-Ying thought that Clifford might "find" her, in seeing her as no
one else did, appreciating her and taking care of
her.

However, by the end of the story, to hear Ying-Ying
tell it, it seems that she believes she must find herself—the tiger
that once lived in her, and give that tiger to her child before Ying-Ying dies, so that
her daughter can be strong.