In T. S. Eliot's poem "The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock," what are Prufrock's views about love?

The attitudes toward love expressed in T. S. Eliot’s
ironically titled poem “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock” are various, but include
the following:

• a strong sense of uncomfortable
  self-consciousness as Prufrock imagines himself being looked at, talked about, and found
  wanting by observers who are presumably female (“They will say: How his hair is growing
  thin!’” [41]). Prufruck seems to lack self-confidence, especially in his relations with
  women. Presumably it is women, too, who also preoccupy his thoughts a few lines later
  (“They will say: ‘But how his arms and legs are thin!’” [45]). Prufrock’s sense of his
  physical shortcomings may help explain why he seems so uncertain around
  women.


• a strong sense of erotic desire. Despite his
  discomfort, Prufrock does seem capable of erotic arousal, as when he
  mentions

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Arms that are braceleted and white and
bare

(But in the lamplight, downed with light brown hair!)
(63-64)

(Notice that so far
Prufrock has evaluated both himself and women in terms of physical appeal rather than in
terms of anything more important or substantial.  This may be part of his problem as a
potential lover: his focus on the physical rather than the spiritual. Perhaps if
Prufrock were a little less preoccupied with his own body and the bodies of women, he
might find a suitable and truly loving partner.)

Even his
later reference to squeezing “the universe into a ball” seems to allude to a highly
erotic passage from Andrew Marvell’s poem “To His Coy Mistress”
(92).

• a strong sense that women can be powerful
  and dismissive (97-98). Perhaps part of Prufrock’s problem is simply the choice of women
  with whom he associates. They seem to be women of the upper class, women who are not
  especially intelligent or deeply thoughtful, and women with social and artistic
  pretensions:

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In the room the women come and
go

Talking of Michaelangelo.
(35-36)

One can’t help but
feel that it would be good for Prufrock to spend more time with different kinds of women
than these – women devoted, perhaps, to some noble spiritual or moral calling, such as
helping the poor, attending to the sick, or taking care of needy children.  It might be
good for Prufrock himself to begin volunteering at the Salvation Army, where he might
meet a woman who would see and appreciate his true potential simply as a human being. 
:-)

At present, he seems as shallow and self-involved as
the women with whom he associates.